This is the time of year where many people begin to explore New Year’s resolutions. We reflect on our growth and accomplishments from the past year and our lessons and struggles as we sift through life’s options and our desires. We focused on new ways of experiencing and expressing ourselves, packed full of excitement and motivation to begin our new year’s journey.
When the new year arrives, we are all in! Implementing changes that we have been thinking about and building ourselves up to while trying to release old ways of being that no longer serve us. It’s a beautiful and creative time to connect with our true selves and our power to create and evolve. But for many, it’s short-lived.
After week three, more than 90% of people have forsaken their goals. They’ve become too tired, busy, there’s not enough time, or they change their minds about their goals. We’ve all been there. We’ve all contemplated the endless excuses and lies we conjure up in our minds as we approach the thresholds of change, just searching for a justifiable reason to let ourselves off the hook or to convince others why we couldn’t follow through.
Two of the primary reasons this happens is because we are setting action-based goals rather than growth-based goals and because we are results-oriented rather than process-oriented. Today, I’m going to address the first primary reason: action-based goals versus growth-based goals.
It is fundamental to your success that you recognize that your life results are in-line with who you are being in life, not necessarily the actions you take. The actions we take are based on who we are being in life, not the other way around.
A belief system that supports the idea that we are a product of our actions rather than our actions being a product of us is an outside-in model of thinking. It would mean that we are defined by our results rather than defining them. With this type of thinking, we are mere victims of circumstances, conditions, or outcomes. If this were so, how could we ever change anything?
It’s not to say that action isn’t required; it most certainly is. You can sit around on the couch all day and fantasize about your goals and dreams, but all you’re going to get is sleepy. The process in which we create and manifest our goals and desires looks like this:
The subconscious mind contains the programs and stories we hold of ourselves and this life. These programs produce thought patterns that elicit emotional states in the body, drive actions and behaviors, and deliver results. By working in the action stage to change our results, we are working with the last part of the process that creates them.
To successfully sustain the results we want in life, we must first address what causes them: the subconscious programs. This is where everything about you exists and what must change. We don’t get in life what we want; we get in life what we are. To begin this process, think about the results you want to produce and experience in your life this coming year. What will that experience do for you in life? How will it impact you? Confidence? Happiness? Peace? Fun? Freedom?
Now, you must become that version of yourself who produces those results. If reaching your goal will make you confident, become confident. If it will make your life more peaceful, do what you need to do to become a more peaceful person in life. The results you seek will not create those things but rather you as that version of yourself is the one who produces those things. It’s never the circumstances that decide who you are in life but rather your choices on interacting and thinking within them.
Make a plan to grow into that version of yourself by interacting with life the way that version of you would. Do the things that version of yourself would do. Treat yourself and others the way that version of yourself would. Begin to think the way that version of yourself would think. When you become that version of yourself through practice, you will begin to produce those results in your life.
Next week, I will be addressing the second primary reason: results-orientation versus process-orientation. If this message has spoken to you, like, comment, and share it with others, who may benefit as well. Thank you